The Lost Commandment shows how self-love is the key to happiness.
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Why aren’t people happy? Is there a critical underlying reason? Can we live happier lives? Would the world be a better place if we did?
The Lost Commandment proposes the clue to answering these questions is hidden in the Ten Commandments. In Matthew 22:37-40, Jesus interprets the Ten Commandments as: “love the Lord with all your heart” (which summarizes the first four Commandments) and “love your neighbor as yourself” (which summarizes the last six). The words “as yourself” imply an unstated teaching essential to understanding Jesus’ interpretation of the Commandments: love yourself.
The Lost Commandment shows how self-love is the key to happiness. The love we seek outside ourselves actually begins within us. We are worthy of love just for being who we are. Our resistance to self-love shows up primarily in the form of fear and judgment. However, practices such as forgiveness and changing our self-talk free us to love ourselves.
As we embrace who we are, we become capable of developing our unique gifts and pursuing our dreams. Loving ourselves, we become able to truly love others. Indeed, self-love may be crucial to whether humanity’s future is characterized by abundance or conflict and competition.
The Lost Commandment takes a progressive spiritual and humanist approach to its topic, and includes reflections from the author’s own story of discovering self-love and, from this new basis, rebuilding a happy, fulfilled life.
What people are saying about: “The Lost Commandment – A Spiritual Revelation & Self-Love Revolution”
“With sweet elegance and deep wisdom Barry Thalden has written a book that will astonish as it explores the domains of loving the self in order to more fully enhance the life of one’s person, world, and time.”
–Jean Houston,Ph.D., bestselling author of The Possible Human and The Search for the Beloved, and internationally renowned psychologist, scholar, philosopher, and teacher
“Barry Thalden’s The Lost Commandment weaves together the proven power of how holding our own hearts in self-compassion and self-love leads to embracing all beings and life—just as it is—with love.”
–Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation and Life Visioning
“In a plainspoken — and higher plane-spoken — style, this book takes a simple concept and makes it simpler: LOVE THYSELF. So simple, even an ADULT can understand it.”
–Swami Beyondananda (Steve Bhaerman)
“What a succinct, articulate book on the power of love; self love! Barry Thalden has written a field guide to help us reclaim this lost “commandment.” My advice; Take it with you and read it ’til you get it in your bones.”
Zoe Alowan, co-author of We Need Each Other; co-founder of Time for Tribe
“Barry Thalden’s The Lost Commandment is a clearly written guide to self-love. It shows us how to remove the unconscious blocks to loving ourselves and others, and to claim the truth of who and what we really are.”
–Robert Brumet, author of Living Originally
“Not only is it difficult to love oneself, it is equally difficult to receive love from others. Having both of these difficulties insures a miserable life. You can’t have one without the other. Barry Thalden’s The Lost Commandment provides deep insights on how to live a life full of love.”
–Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D. co-authors of Receiving Love
“The lost commandment Barry Thalden writes about has a lot in common with the more famous Ten: clarity, brevity, wisdom, and power. However, the power that flows from loving yourself is arguably greater than that of several of the Commandments that Moses brought down from the mountain. Thank you, Barry, for this reminder when we so need it.
–Jeff Golden, author of Unafraid and As If We Were Grownups, producer and host of PBS’ “Immense Possibilities”
Little book, big message . . . Hey you there in the mirror, I love you!
–Bill Kauth, co-founder of The ManKind Project and author of A Circle of Men
What a wonderful uncomplicated little treasure this book is. Humanity has been out of flow with themselves for a long while. Were one to consider how, where, or why it would all boil down to love . . . having been steered away from it rather than towards it for eons of time. The Lost Commandment is a gentle oar steering people in the right direction, back into flow, towards love . . . then into love with themselves.
–Maureen Moss, global teacher of consciousness, best-selling author of Commitment to Love, former CEO and on-air host of the World Puja Network
“This book is a gem. It gently guides the reader to understand the Torah’s commandment of self-love that has been “lost” in plain sight for thousands of years. Barry Thalden unpacks this “lost” commandment in a way that will be inspiring and treasured by people in any religion, or on any spiritual path who are searching for happiness and joy.”
–Rabbi David Zaslow, author of Reimagining Exodus: A Story of Freedom
“Bravo for The Lost Commandment! It’s such a wise, heartfelt, pragmatic guide to unconditionally loving oneself. Very timely and most needed.”
–Leonard Laskow, M.D., author of Healing with Love and For Giving Love
“Most people have to go to a therapist to learn the key to maturity and happiness. But you just need to read this book! The Lost Commandment (TLC!) is a heartfelt reminder that nurturing ourselves with compassion is the path to contentment and joy.”
–Carol Hechtenthal, MSW, author of Signs of Life, founder of the Calgary Institute of Integrative Body Psychotherapy
“The theme of Thalden’s book is as simple as it is profound: in order to love others, love yourself first. This is not an Ode to Ego—in fact, the book is thoroughly infused with humanity and altruism. Thalden proposes a revolution of kindness and forgiveness, rooted in the deep understanding and sympathy for ourselves. Who can resist such a proposal?”
–Martin Majkut, Ph.D. Music Director and Conductor Queens N.Y. Symphony and the Rogue Valley Symphony Orchestras